All (of) we use to express total number or amount of something

all (of) my friends, all (of) the time
All (of) my friends visited me in the hospital.

All (of) we usually use with uncountable nouns

all (of) the money, all (of) the oil
She has spent all (of) the money on cosmetics.

All of we usually use with personal pronouns it, them, etc.

all of them, all of it
Have you invited all of them?

All is usually placed after the personal pronoun we, they, them, us

we all, they all
We all enjoyed the concert.

We usually use The whole (of) with singular countable nouns.
The can be replaced by a possessive pronoun our, my, etc.

the whole meeting, my whole life
She lived in the same house her whole life.

All or the whole can be used with time expressions

all day / the whole day
all morning / the whole morning